Letter From a Friend who Volunteered at the Safe Harbor Holiday Party
Remember when Mom would say 'Do with what you have' or 'Be thankful for what you have'....
Christopher and I just got home from visiting a Safe Harbor shelter. We went with many of the boys from his soccer team and there were four girls in the group. The girls traveled with me. On our way we talked about what to expect, how some people don't have as much as we do, and not to be afraid to talk to the people who live there.
Upon arrival we were greeted by volunteers and and shelter administrators who gave us a tour of the dorms. The bunk beds are slight, the storage cabinets small, the single-gender bathrooms are shared by many, and the food is never questioned.
The children were anxious, anxious to give, anxious to help, anxious with nerves. They couldn't wait to give away the stockings they stuffed with simple things like deodorant and hats. Although some did not show much emotion, or maybe they did not know how, the residents were appreciative of the gifts. We spoke about sports (of course), we spoke about jobs, we spoke about goals (not soccer goals), we spoke about food - and perhaps they didn't know it, but we spoke about and saw Life.
On the way home I asked the girls what they learned. "The people there are happy and they really don't have much." "Don't Judge a Book by Its Cover", "Just because a person looks a certain way, doesn't mean they are not nice".
The last time I was moved to write something like this, the boys had to dig into their 'athletic' hearts to learn a lesson. This time their hearts simply grew so much by giving so little - without practice and without expectation.
I asked Christopher what he learned tonight. He said, without hesitation, "That I'm pretty lucky." In the moments of silence that followed my eyes welled with emotion. It was one of those moments when your kid just floors you. You're speechless.
I am home now in my warm house with a refrigerator and cupboard full of food and I'm about to crawl into my own bed with as many or as little blankets as I want. Like the girls said - It doesn't take much to be happy. So now I'm going to say it (no matter how cliche it may sound) - Be thankful for what you have.
Have a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.